Are you sick of your kids pushing peas round their plate and playing with more of their food than they eat? It’s not uncommon for little ones to treat dinnertime as nothing more than a chance to make a mess and wreak havoc but this is hardly the sort of behaviour you want to encourage.
If you want your children to learn good dining etiquette so that they can excel later in life, then perhaps dining room furniture has the answer?
Let them dine with you
As your children begin to mature, they will enjoy dining with others more and more. From lunches in the school cafeteria with friends to sitting around the family dinner table, introducing the correct table behaviour at a young age will teach your children the importance of polite manners and etiquette.
Dining with others is the easiest way for your kids to learn what to do and The Daily Mail Online has even commented on how kids from poorer regions of the country have been taught dinner table etiquette through Harry Potter inspired banquets. Sitting down once a fortnight, the kids learn how to hold cutlery and eat properly.
Always make sure that have a comfortable seat and are at the appropriate height to reach the table with ease – if they become frustrated because they’re unable to reach their food then this will only encourage bad behaviour.
Give them the same food you’re having (or a suitable alternative if this isn’t possible) and provide fruit juice or water to mimic your wine or dinnertime tipple. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery after all and kids learn most by copying the behaviour of their parents.
Use your family meal as a schooling point for your children.
Instead of allowing each and every member of the household to sit down to dinner as and when they please, encourage the family to make time for a meal together. Making the time to get together as a family is a great way to catch up on everybody’s news but can also help children learn about the different plates, cutlery and glassware used at meal times.
This is especially beneficial for children that don’t see too much of their parents throughout the day due to hectic workloads and busy schedules. This meeting is a chance for the children to tell their parents, brothers and sisters about what they have learnt at school, what they have planned for the rest of the week, as well as any other exciting news they may have.
Finger foods are a popular option when it comes to feeding younger children but eating with their hands isn’t the most civil way to dine.
When your child reaches the appropriate age, it’s important to talk to them about the significance of using utensils. A good way to encourage them to do this is to tell them that adults eat with utensils. If other diners are opting for utensils, your children should too.
Choosing cutlery that is bright and attractive to look at will help you to school your child in using certain utensils. You could even get them to choose their own special set to increase their interest in using cutlery. The same applies to crockery.
Interacting with fellow diners
Even if your child is a little too small to sit in a grown-up chair, this doesn’t mean they can’t join others at the main table. Good table manners incorporate polite interaction at the dinner table and if they’re sitting at the other side of the room in a baby chair, this quite simply isn’t going to happen.
Investing in a good dining room table and chairs from Sainsbury’s and one that incorporates a baby chair is therefore imperative to the interaction process. It’s wise to have the measurement of your child’s existing high chair at hand prior to purchasing a new table. If they’re sat too low, or similarly, too high, they may begin to feel left out.
Teach your children how to politely ask for food
Statements such as “May I please have the salt?” or “Could you please pass the bread?” will inspire your children to thank their fellow diners for passing these food items and some parents choose to adopt the “six Cs” approach to good dinner table etiquette.
A post on Yahoo! Lifestyle explained these table manners as the following:
- Can I start?
- Can I be excused?
- Compliments and gratitude
- Clearing the plate
They will then get into the habit of following suit. Your children should also be schooled in voicing their appreciation when the food is served and also, when the meal comes to an end.
Similarly, it’s wise to clarify that voicing negative comments about the food is uncouth, particularly when the chef has gone to a great effort in preparing the meal.